My Parenting Journey
My journey started off in survival mode, hazed in a fog of sleep deprivation, confusion, anxiety and a general struggle to enjoy motherhood. I was constantly being asked
"Is she sleeping through yet?"
"You know you need to teach her to self soothe on her own?"
"Don't feed her to sleep this is just a bad habit that makes it more difficult for you"
"Why are you picking her up so often? Let her cry for a bit, she will go to sleep when she knows your not coming."
I remember thinking …. “This can’t be it? This is Motherhood?”
I struggled with breastfeeding big time, my baby was a reluctant napper, who woke multiple times in the night and difficult to settle.
Any support and knowledge around me was so conflicting and often just didn't work for my baby. I just felt exhausted and a failure all the time.
I also struggled with my own personal traumatic birth experience, which impacted the way I connected with my babies and also how I viewed myself as a mother.
I had a limited village of support around me and often felt isolated in my mothering journey, especially because I didn't want to sleep train.
I remember very clearly how that time in my life felt. I wished for a clearer understanding of what my baby’s sleep needs were and how I could enjoy my precious baby.
Your Parenting Journey
You are here today possibly searching for that same understanding about your baby’s sleep .... let me tell you, you are not alone in this.
I can guide and support you to step out of the exhaustion fog and the constant confusion, to a place where you feel empowered when it comes to knowing the sleep needs of your unique baby.
Why Work With Me?
A proud Mama of two teenagers
Registered Nurse of 30 years
Child Health & Development Nurse
Internationally Board Certified Lactation Consultant
Certified Holistic Sleep Coach (Graduate of Lyndsey Hookway)
My personal & clinical experience
Passionate about gentle sleep
Bespoke sleep support is my jam
Evidenced based practitioner
No “cry it out” methods – only responsive & connection based approaches offered
Ensuring your wellbeing and family lifestyle values are met
I offer sleep solutions that are tailored to your baby/child's individual developmental and biological needs
I created Nurturing Touch out of a need to support fellow Mothers, lost in an overwhelming sea of conflicting baby care and baby sleep information and to support them to understand what messages they could trust. As a Registered Nurse, specialising in Child Health & Development, it was clear to me working with thousands of parents, that the information that was available was out dated, opinion based and moving further and further away of instinctual parenting. At the same time, these messages in parenting were pushing babies to be both independent physically and cognitively before they were biologically ready. This was causing high levels of stress within families, low joy in parenting and babies were spending more time in a heightened nervous state, due to their biological inability to regulate themselves.
I am passionate about gentle and responsive sleep approaches that are family centered attachment focused. I updated my professional development and gained a deeper understanding in infant and child sleep science, cognitive development, behaviour and communication cues and general feeding knowledge.
Infant and baby sleep is developmental, biologically driven and is different for each baby.
In early parenting, we do the best we can with the information/guidance we have at the time. We are often overwhelmed with advice from all directions about how our baby SHOULD be sleeping. The foundations of this advice are often not based on facts, it tends to be more opinion based and not in the best interests of us or our babies. What is more disappointing, is that much of the misinformation given to families about infant sleep and expectations around infant sleep, comes from health professionals.
My focus is empowering families to better understand their unique baby’s sleep needs. Guide families to be experimental when it comes to sleep issues and support families with up-to-date education along the way.
My goal is to offer families tools and strategies to continually meet the ever changing sleep needs of their children.
My approach is holistic, gentle and responsive, grounded in infant sleep science and most importantly, sustainable as your child’s sleep needs evolve.
No one size fits all situations here, sleep is never linear. As parents we need to be flexible and responsive in our approach, as our baby’s sleep demands evolve with their natural development.
Nurturing Touch offers this to all families.
“My family inspire and remind me everyday how important it is to support other families on their parenting journeys.”
Qualifications & Professional Development
~ Registered Nurse 30 years
~ Postgraduate Certificate (Masters Level Papers, A+) Well Child Tamariki Ora Nursing
~ Internationally Board Certified Lactation Consultant
~ Certified Holistic Sleep Coach (Bachelor Level Paper, OCN level 6 UK (14 modules, 20 speakers) Evidenced Based Science of Infant Sleep, Feeding and Behaviour, Attachment Focused and Family Lead Postnatal Support - newborn to six years old
~ Certified International Association of Infant Massage Instructor - IAIM
~ Attended Introductory Masterclass and Workshops - Dr Pamela Douglas - Breastfeeding, Cry/Fuss Problems, Sleep Issues, Maternal Mental Health Support
~ Training and Assessment for Adult Education, Certificate, 2015
~ Currently Studying - Infant Allergies, Reflux & Colic Certification
~ Conferences - LeLache League NZ Conference 2018, Canterbury Breastfeeding Hui 2018 and 2019, Home Birth Canterbury Conference 2019 and Presented at the LCANZ Conference 2019
Kia ora I am Karla the proud founder of Nurturing Touch.
I created Nurturing Touch out of a need to support fellow Mothers, offer guidance for responsive & connection based sleep support and to empower families to trust their instincts, on this amazing journey, that is Parenthood.