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The Beyond Sleep Training Project
The Beyond Sleep Training Project was founded by Carly Grubb, aka ‘Grubby Mummy and the Grubby Bubbies’ in 2017.
It all started after Carly had tried and tried to ‘fix’ the ‘problems’ she kept being told her firstborn had with sleep. After repeatedly being told Sleep Training was the only option, and trying every method in all the books, including a stint in sleep school, the industry that is Sleep Training washed their hands of her.
At a loss for what to do about her baby’s ‘broken sleep’, she finally was given the advice she needed from a beautiful and nurturing midwife: ‘Just give in, stop fighting your baby’. After finding Pinky McKay, Sarah Ockwell-Smith and Evolutionary Parenting, she did just that, gave in to her baby and met him at his point of need. She’s never looked back. Now on her third, she is so glad her little sparkler never gave up on telling her what he needed.
After her second baby, Carly thought it would be great to get some likeminded souls to discuss safe sleep practices, share advice, and support each other, so she started The Beyond Sleep Training Project Facebook Group. She hoped to get 50 people together… That goal was met in an hour. Now the group is joined by over 3,000 members a month worldwide and has become a haven for those who wish to parent their babies by listening and responding to their needs.
Possums Education & PIPPS - Parent Online Support
We bring you a new paradigm in the care of mothers and babies.
Parents receive a great deal of conflicting advice about how best to navigate the challenges of life with a new baby. We need to let you know up front that the Possums approach has some points of difference.
At Possums, we are deeply committed to evidence-based care. The Possums system is also built upon a rigorous theoretical foundation.
We aim to help parents enjoy their baby as much as possible.
We deeply believe that parents are the experts on their baby.
We support flexibility as parents experiment and ‘get in sync’ with their baby, since the evidence shows this results in better outcomes.
We understand the family, or the mother and baby, as a dynamic system. For this reason, we offer integrated and interdisciplinary care. The well-being of each mother and baby are considered in each of five interacting domains: baby’s health, mother’s health, feeds, the baby’s sensory-motor needs, and sleep. We identify and offer parents strategies to address clinical obstacles which might interfere with parent-baby synchrony in each domain.
We offer state-of-the-art knowledge about the clinical support of infant feeding, regardless of how the baby is fed. We aim to liberate women from the guilt, pressure and judgement that can surround infant feeding choices. We support the family’s enjoyment of feeds, and help every woman meet her own feeding goals.
We have adapted the empowering techniques of a modern form of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, known as ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), which rest on a substantial body of evidence, to support families’ psychological resilience.
We promote early intervention, by which we mean in the first minutes, hours, days and weeks of life.
The care of new families is on the cusp of paradigm shift, and at Possums we are committed to providing leadership into the future.
Tracy Cassels - Parenting & Sleep Support
Tracy Cassels, PhD - the founder of Evolutionary Parenting - has been working with families for years to help them with their parenting and sleep problems. With a focus on what is biologically normal, she helps families with a range of issues.
“He’ll sleep with you.”, said our dry-humoured English midwife.
“What do you mean?”, I replied. “He’ll sleep in his expensive organic non-toxic crib I just ordered”.
“No”, she said. “He’ll sleep with you – I can tell.”
I walked out of our prenatal visit thinking our midwife was a little odd. But she’d aroused my curiosity, so I started reading and I couldn’t stop. One author suggested that babies were safest sleeping with their parents. That babies could use the potty instead of diapers. And that we didn’t need a stroller – we’d form a stronger bond with our son by carrying him.
While unconventional, the concepts I uncovered felt natural, logical and authentic. So when our son was born we chose to embrace natural parenting and ignore the “rules” of modern parenthood. He slept with us from night one. Used the potty from nine weeks. And our crib? We sold it, unused, on Craigslist.
But the journey didn’t end with babyhood. Because natural parenting isn’t a parenting style. It's a way of life. It’s an empathic attitude that has opened my eyes to my son. To see his young soul so that I can be responsive to his individual needs.
As he’s outgrown his onesies and sprinted through toddlerhood into childhood, this approach has allowed us to effortlessly sidestep traditional discipline techniques like timeouts, threats and rewards. It has encouraged us to embrace simplicity as we recognise that an overscheduled, tightly controlled and cluttered childhood isn’t serving our children well.
I can help you experience the same shift in perspective and give you the confidence to choose a countercultural parenting path that will result in your children not merely surviving childhood, but thriving.
And the bonus? Parenting becomes easier, smoother and infinitely more rewarding.
Parenting as nature intended has shifted our perspective and enriched our connection with our son beyond our expectations.
I believe choosing to see parenthood as a relationship rather than a set of strategies will have a tremendously positive effect on his long-term emotional health, attitudes towards relationships and above all, his happiness.
I believe in simple childhoods, in quality over quantity, downtime over busyness and rhythms over schedules.
Western society expects a parenting approach centered on adult’s wants rather than children’s needs. But when we meet children’s needs they thrive. It’s where the magic happens. Pure unadulterated magic.
Babies cry less.Toddlers have fewer tantrums. Children are less anxious. Why? Because they feel safe, secure and unconditionally loved. They’re free to be the best versions of themselves. And it makes parents glow.
When we consciously consider how nature designed us to parent, look beyond the baby store selling mother replacements and instead, soften our hearts and surrender to the journey, magical things can happen.
As a parent, I now see that children need a strong voice to advocate for their needs. As do you - their parents - who are pushing the boundaries of western conformity and may be struggling to find acceptance as you bravely parent your way.
This is why I created Raised Good: a community to support you without judgment on your natural parenting journey and to offer sound, well thought out, scientifically-backed advice.
I’ll remain forever grateful to our midwife for shifting my perspective on a cold, misty Tuesday morning, as a path I didn’t know existed opened up and has taken me on the most incredible journey of my life.
This is our story - and it’s one that’s still being written. I’d love to hear yours and help you navigate your natural parenting journey.
Pinky Mckay is Australia’s most recognised and respected breastfeeding expert. A best-selling author, Boobie Brands owner, Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), TEDx Speaker, brand ambassador and Media Personality.
To work with Pinky, contact:
The Milk Meg - Meg Nagle IBCLC
Meg is the mother of three active boys. In between blogging, writing, speaking, researching and occasionally sleeping …Meg works with women to help them reach their breastfeeding goals! Her background is in counselling and sexual health. She was also a La Leche League Leader (breastfeeding counsellor) for seven years before becoming an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant.
Head here to read her articles about all things breastfeeding,
To book a breastfeeding consultation with Meg head to her consult page,
*Facebook Guidelines For The Milk Meg*
How we go about feeding our babies can be incredibly emotional and personal for us. This can bring about strong reactions when reading research and other people's experiences. This page is here to:
-Encourage, support and protect breastfeeding and to help women reach their own individual goals. Whether that goal is for 5 minutes or 5 years.
-Encourage and support gentle/attachment parenting
-Encourage and support breastfeeding to natural term (beyond babyhood).
-Encourage and support mothering through breastfeeding during the day as well as during the night.
Professor Amy Brown - Breastfeeding Uncovered
The latest research around breastfeeding, introducing solids, mothering and mental health led by Professor Amy Brown
Breastfeeding Uncovered aims to improve understanding of what breastfeeding and babies are really like, and how as a society, we can work together to support mums to breastfeed for as long as they want.
It aims to promote knowledge, understanding and acceptance of normal baby behaviour and to fight a society that can make us think that something is wrong with how our babies act, and that breastfeeding is the problem.
Alongside this it will challenge the anxieties and worries that we put in new mothers way ... surely he must be sleeping through the night by now ... you need your life back ... lost the baby weight yet ...?
This page is run by Dr Amy Brown, Associate Professor in Child Public Health at Swansea University, whose research explores the many social, psychological and cultural barriers that we put in the way of breastfeeding mothers and how we can change this to make society more breastfeeding friendly.
Breastfeeding Uncovered the book will be published by Pinter and Martin In Autumn 2016
LeLache League NZ
Parent to parent breastfeeding and lactation support not-for-profit organisation. All our services are free.
Mother & Baby Patch - Christchurch, NZ
Ruth O'Donavan IBCLC
I trained and worked as a nurse and midwife in Dublin, Ireland between 1994 and 2007, receiving a Postgraduate Diploma in Midwifery studies. During this time I also received a Certificate in Counselling Skills from NUI Maynooth University and a Masters of Science in Midwifery Studies from Trinity College Dublin.
I moved to New Zealand in 2007 and worked as a hospital based midwife in Christchurch. During this time I trained as an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) and qualified in 2010. I am currently employed within the DHB providing free community based infant feeding and lactation advice and support. I work Monday to Friday 08.30-5.00 in this role.
In the evenings and weekends I can provide private antenatal, postnatal and parent education with a focus on infant feeding and lactation. I can also provide private, home based breastfeeding consultations after the birth of your baby.
My belief is that with information and support women can trust their own instincts as they transition to motherhood. However, I am becoming increasingly aware of the potential negative affect of ‘information overload’ and with this a disempowerment of maternal intuition. My aim is to support women and their families to process this information and to assess what will work best for them and their family.
If you would like to discuss these options with me please feel free to message me or call me.
DISCLAIMER: If you have been referred to the community based infant feeding service within the Canterbury region I am unable to accept you as a private client.
Perinatal Wellbeing Canterbury
Our vision for our community is Mentally Healthy Parents.
Our mission is to encourage and grow the mental wellbeing of parents and whanau during the first 1,000 days.
Manaaki - respect and aroha for each other
Stronger Together - sharing and growing from lived experience
Integrity - in all we do
Parents who are experiencing a decline in mental wellbeing relating to, or resulting from, pregnancy, childbirth and parenting within the first 1,000 days (Pregnancy to 3+ years).
Playgroup – Ministry of Education certified, this service is run by our Peer Supporters with the assitance of police checked volunteers. Located in Spreydon.
Dads group – peer facilitated opportunity for fathers to meet fortnightly on evenings and/or weekends for support, information and fellowship. Includes men who themselves are or whose partners are affected by perinatal mental wellbeing issues.
Wellbeing groups – ‘drop in’ groups for pregnant or postnatal women that meet weekly with no referral required. Peer Supporter facilitated providing information and support. Refers to our Support Group or clinical intervention if required.
Facilitated Support Groups – peer supporter facilitated groups meeting weekly in term time following a twenty week programme which includes speakers, activities, sharing and information and police checked volunteer child minding. Referral required. Maximum participants 8 per group.
Home Visits - take place on receipt of a referral from Plunket, Midwives, GP’s, other health professionals or self referral. An assessment of the level of support required is carried out. Support can vary from providing information, wait listing for our Support Groups, or assistance to access other mental health services.
Peer Support – online or telephone contact, available while clients on a wait list or after group discharge; or when a group is not a preferred means of support.